Category Archives: Time for you

Life happens.

So I’ve been very quiet for the last year on Facebook and for about 2 years on this blog. I’ve done a few things during that time.

I moved to Squamish. I love Squamish. The people are open and friendly, the markets are welcoming, and don’t even get me started on the mountains. The beautiful mountains halfway between Vancouver and Whistler. I made a few really good friends, my son started kindergarten and had an awesome caring teacher, the other moms of the class were awesome too.

I had a baby. I gave birth to my second child February 7, 2017. I adore her, she is adored by many. She is a constant joy to all of us and is now a toddler and has been toddling along like a drunken sailor for the last couple weeks. It’s been a joy to spend my maternity leave cuddling her and my son.

I moved home. Real estate prices became very unrealistic. Over the course of the 2 years I was in Squamish real estate doubled in price and has effectively doubled again since I left in May. We moved back to my hometown of Vanderhoof and we bought a house. It’s small but cozy and we love it. It’ll take a bit of TLC but it’s ours.

I guess what I’m trying to say that we never know where life takes us. Life is a journey. Enjoy it.

When do you make time for you?

As a woman and a mother, I find that if I don’t MAKE time for me to refresh myself physically or mentally I tend to get more than a bit frazzled. Now this is something that women tend to put off. We always seem to be in care giver mode (or at least the vast majority of us are) and tend to put our needs and wants last. Now don’t get me wrong, I do put my child right up there as a main priority as he is a very important person (as is my partner!) We are there and on call from the moment we give birth and frequently pull all-nighters with sick children and are expected to be functioning adults the next day.

If we don’t take care of number one, how on earth can we manage to take care of everybody else on the list of people who depend on us, be they your child(ren), your spouse, you extended family, your friends, your employer, etc.

Some of us feel that it is our duty to put all others first in front of our own needs. Ladies. It is not. Personally I have struggled with this for years. I’ve neglected to put myself first in most aspects of my life. I’m actively trying to change this habit. Recently I re-joined a gym at the urging of my boyfriend, I’d been putting it off because I felt that I didn’t need it all that badly (I did…!)

I’m glad that I finally picked up that gym pass because I DID need it. I needed the ME time. I needed the time to get out of the house BY MYSELF and work on ME for my health and for my family’s health. Because if I can’t take care of me, can I take care of them?

I’m not saying that you need to run out and buy a gym pass. Not at all! Go to the library, read a book, go for coffee with a friend, go to the store by yourself, have a bath. Just do something for YOU at least half an hour a week. Schedule it if you must! But do it for you, and maybe for them.

 

When do YOU make time for you?

Alissa

When was the last time you had a BATH?

Instead of a shower? When did you last relax and have a soak in a nice hot tub full of bubbles or epsom salts?

I’ve been asking this question all month and the answers (and reactions!) have been mixed.  It’s lead to some very frank discussions, a lot of laughter and some really odd looks. I’m finding that about 1/3 of the people I talk to don’t sit in a tub to soak and haven’t in a few years because they don’t have a tub. Another 1/3 just don’t take the time. Of the remaining 1/3 half of them don’t like to sit in the tub (they much prefer their showers) and the other half could sit in the tub forever.

It would seem that in the hustle and bustle of the digital age we have deemed that taking time to unwind, relax and generally take care of ourselves is unnecessary. Unrightfully so! I think that in this hectic era it is essential to make the time to stop and ponder; slow down and enjoy the moment. This moment.

And maybe while you’re at it; run a bath!

Until next time,

Alissa